"This is just what it feels like to get old." But then I would have a reality check, "If this is just normal getting old, nobody over 35 would be smiling at all." So then I'd go back to another doctor or specialist. One of my favorites was the male gynecologist, who when I told him I couldn't even think about sex and it was painful to even touch my vagina, informed me of the importance of foreplay to the female in sexual relations. As if by age 38, I hadn't figured out how sex works, and as if foreplay would even be possible in my state. I was getting pretty resigned. But my conviction and my trust in my own body won out. I knew my body. I knew something was wrong. I began to do a lot of research and I was led to Dr. Cameron. I made an appointment. I went in with a spreadsheet of all my symptoms, determined to get through all of them and not forget any.